Relationship therapy
More connection, less hassle.
For a loving, lively and happy relationship.
Relationship therapy
More connection, less hassle.
For a loving, lively and happy relationship.
Do you remember?
You had a carefree life, exploring the world, eating out, enjoying. All in harmony. Of course there was something for once. But you were very strong in the relationship with an enormous sense of freedom and being together.
Now that you are family together, it turns out that things don’t go the way you thought. There are things involved that you had never thought about. This causes irritations, conversations and arguments that you did not have before. That there is so little time, so much on your plate, that you feel so little together.
Your life is fantastic, two good jobs, a nice house, you can also travel with the children. You can’t fully enjoy all that beauty because there is hassle between you. But you still love each other.
The love is there and yet...
Have you had arguments or irritations again and as always, in recent years, it is about the same things. It's too often and there seems to be no solution for it. Now you have just again, your partner, the love of your life, been calling rotten fish for a futility about the division of labor. You feel; “I don't want this anymore”.
Of course, you often try to understand it after that fight to get past those eternal points of contention. But every time you explain to your partner why you are so irritated about this, you see a look of incomprehension. You are no longer able to understand each other.
You both do your own thing, but there is hardly ever time for you together. It eats away at you. Because you see your partner hugging the children and you think; “when will I get attention from you again”. Your partner goes to the work drink, goes out with friends or sits on the couch exhausted, but that time is never there for you. You, that rock-solid team that you once were, now just live alongside each other.
You can now miss sex and intimacy so much for all kinds of reasons. Just for making love, for the intimacy and the attention that is lacking. Which you can no longer easily muster for the other person. And even to have time for something together and to be able to disappear into it.
You have ended up in a role in your relationship that no longer suits you. You don't always want to be the one who has to be the backstop, take the initiative, you don't always want that same role. Of course you also see, you have changed in recent years. So it makes sense that your dynamic has changed. But preferably not this way.
You don’t see relationship therapy as a last resort. It is precisely because you feel that there is more in it and you wonder: Where can we find and understand ourselves and each other better? You want to look at difficult subjects. Really knowing what is going on with the other person. Maybe secretly talk more about your feelings, emotions and desires. The love is there!
“Love is finding the other in his or her individuality” G. Kloens
Do you want:
again being that rock-solid team as the basis of your relationship
communicate better so that you can talk to each other more positively and effortlessly, together find direction in your dreams and desires.
More understanding and appreciation for each other so that you feel seen and heard.
Understand patterns and differences so that you experience more support and connection.
doing what is best for you and the other person, which deepens and enriches your relationship.
feel and experience more liveliness, intimacy and pleasure.
Really give your relationship attention again and grow together?
What does relationship therapy look like?
Together we will work in which your relationship is central and where there is room for everyone’s own story. We start by clarifying what is bothering you and what your desires and wishes are. We investigate underlying patterns, feelings and desires in order to achieve sustainable change. We really go to the core, the essence of your love and relationship. We reflect on what is important to both of you. Sharing this with each other gives space to understand each other better, so that you can stay close to yourself and connected, even when it is difficult. The confidence in yourself and you together can grow so that you can move forward together.
As a relationship therapist, I watch, give subtitles and stand next to you. I guide you closer to yourself and each other and especially help you to deepen your relationship. Therapy may sound heavy, but together we focus on your strength, possibilities and new stories. For this I work with different methodologies, solution-oriented, EFT, ACT, experiential and always from a systemic perspective.
The process takes 3 to 6 months. The program is tailored to your relationship, desires and goals. Sustainable change and growth is a process. That is why I work intensively with you for at least three months. In between the sessions, you will work with the insights and exercises yourself in order to strengthen and deepen your relationship.
Offer
View the offer below.
Option 1
Relationship process
The program consists of;
30-minute introduction
First 2-hour session
6 sessions of 75 minutes of relationship therapy, interspersed with individual sessions in consultation. In my practice or online.
Personal guidance via whatsapp and email
Extra inspiration, assignments and exercises.
The investment for this process is € 1425,-. It is possible to pay in 3 installments.
Option 2
Single session
A single session can be used as;
Extensive introduction for the entire process;
You have been in relationship therapy before;
You need an MOT;
There is a specific question about your relationship;
The investment for the single session of 75 minutes is € 199,-.
Frequently asked questions
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If you have supplementary insurance with your health insurer, you can be reimbursed for part of the costs. The fees are listed here; https://lvpw.nl/partner/vergoeding-zorgverzekeraar/
If you are an entrepreneur, we can discuss the possibilities during the introduction.
If you finish earlier, we will settle the amount, so that you only pay over the purchased period and sessions.
Relationship therapy is not possible if one of the partners is still cheating, is in a mental health care program, has an addiction or is not willing to take his or her own responsibility.
Yes. It is of course very nice to come together. If your partner does not want to come along, we will work individually with your concerns and wishes. You gain insight into your part of the relationship. Systemic therapy is about the interaction between people. If you change and grow, it can’t help but have an effect on the relationship.
Sure. I am trained as a relationship, family therapist or in other words system therapist. Systems theory focuses on the relationships between people and assumes that man can only be understood in the context of his relationships. So we can get started with all forms in which you are in relationship with the other, whether as a family, with your child, parent or business partner.
Insight, change and growth take time, which is why a separate session is not recommended. Patterns that you have known for years often do not change after 1 session. Just like you don’t have a killer body or top condition after going to the gym 1 time. A single session is possible for a specific question about your relationship, if you have previously been in relationship therapy or are looking for an MOT. Then let’s call to coordinate with each other.
If you have doubts, it is good to investigate where the doubt lies, are the patterns you have ended up in, has the relationship received too little attention, have you changed, has the feeling disappeared or has something drastic happened? If you decide to separate, you have taken the time to make a conscious choice and you can close the love relationship and possibly reshape the relationship together as parents of your children.
If you finish earlier, we will settle the amount, so that you only pay for the purchased period and sessions.
Mess around a bit?
Of course, you can mess around a little longer. You against the other and the other against you instead of together. Trying to make it better yourself. Couples arrive at couples therapy on average 6 years late. Did you know? That’s such a shame. If you continue like this, the children will be grown up and this is what they have been given. You want to be able to enjoy each other, with the family, NOW. One day they will leave home, then you also want to grow old lovingly together. Nevertheless? I cordially invite you and you to my practice.
